Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Day 9

Day 09 → Someone you didn’t want to let go, but just drifted.

This one is an easy one for me. 

This would be my best friend, Kat (short for Katherine).  Kat was my Big Sis in Tri-Sigma in college.  When we were asked to pick 3 people we'd like to be our potential "Bigs,"  I immediately picked Kat.  I have no idea why really.  I hadn't really ever spoken to her; she was just always happy, smiling, and waving.  So, of course, I was drawn to her - who wouldn't be?  So, she became my Big Sis and we became best friends (BF). 

I've got to be honest and say that I'd never had a BF before Kat.  So, it was a new experience for me and it was so cool to finally have a BF.  Kat and I were inseparable from March 2001 till August 2004.  Then, life happened.  I got married to my exhusband, then 2 months later she married her husband.  We were, of course, Maids of Honor in each other's weddings, but after that, we kind of drifted apart.  Which, of course, is what happens when you're trying to concentrate on your new marriage. 

So, my marriage began falling apart and I left in March 2005.  I stayed with Kat and her husband for a short time and then we became instant BF's again.  Shortly thereafter she became pregnant and when she had her baby in April 2006, I was in the delivery room with her, her husband, and her mother.  I was there helping her with the delivery.  I don't know how else to describe how close we were - that's pretty close!  Then, after the baby, I was in a "different" place.

I was trying my hand at dating, while she was trying her hand at being a wife and mother.  We began drifting apart, because of me.  I didn't know what to do.  I was secretly jealous and I didn't have much in common with her anymore.  So, we drifted.  Since then, I've tried to keep in contact as much as possible, but I know that with 2 kids now and a difficult situation, she's very busy.  But, I do email her at work at least once every two weeks or so..... Sad, huh?  This time she's doing the pulling back. 

So there you have it... The person I've drifted from that I wish I hadn't.


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2 comments:

teacherwoman said...

Sounds like you guys had a wonderful relationship, and sometimes that drifting away just happens, no matter how hard you try to stay close!

lindsay said...

I hate those times. That's happened with most of my college girlfriends, not cool. But life gets busy and it's hard to get together when you live all over the country. :-/ at least you know if/when you get together with her you'll still be able to have a good time catching up.

There's a quote about "some people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime" -- I don't remember it completely though