Thursday, November 18, 2010

Day 18

Day 18 → Your views on gay marriage.

Yikes.  Controversial topic, anyone?

Here goes nothing....

My views on gay marriage is this...

I believe that we are not to judge.  The Bible tells us to judge no one.  Therefore, I believe that by telling someone they can not marry - you are judging them.  You are judging them, because you don't feel the same way as they do and therefore you're telling them that they're wrong and can't marry.  Wrong or right, it's not for us to decide.  Plain and simple.  That's God's work. 

By not allowing people to marry, you're not just hurting the two that wish to marry - you're hurting their families as well.  Don't believe me?  Think about this....

Say your sister was a lesbian and her partner died in a horrific car accident.  According to the law now (in most states), your sister will not be able to take bereavement to grieve the loss of her partner.  She'll have to use a personal or vacation day of some sort.  And it doesn't stop there.  You'd like to go to the funeral as well, because her partner is your family, too.  Well, you'll have to take a vacation day too.  But, if the sister had been married to a male, none of this would even matter, right?  I don't think that's very fair.  Of course you're going to do whatever it takes to be there for your family member and their partner's death.  They are your family, no matter their choices, and you love them AND their partner too.  But it doesn't stop with bereavement days.  Gays don't have A LOT of the rights and privileges that straight people do (and take for granted) and I think that it's wrong.  You may not believe that they should be married, but you should still give them that right to choose.  In my opinion, at least.  You give them the right to choose to do a lot of things, why not let them choose this?  Is it hurting anyone?  I don't think so. 
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teacherwoman said...

Well said, chica!

Brandi said...

I'm right there with you girl! Just let people be! We have multiple friends who are in same sex relationships and we don't think anything about it. They are our friends and we love them, that's all that matters!

d.a.r. said...

I think this is a very well said and respectful post.

In my family law class in law school, we discussed the legal issues regarding gay marriage. It was interesting...95% of our class was opposed to polygamy, but over 80% of the class though that gay marriage should be legalized. I guess my question for you is, given that you think we shouldn't judge--why is that polygamy should be outlawed and every person should only have one spouse, and yet we shouldn't judge homosexuals and should let them marry?

It just seems counterintuitive to me. We regulate marriage for moral reasons when it relates to polygamy. But we can't regulate marriage for moral reasons when it relates to homosexuality?

Why/how is it different? Why are we free to judge men who take 8 wives, but we should't judge a man who takes a husband or a woman who takes a wife?

I'm not saying that this is my personal/religious belief, I just think that intellectually, it is difficult to distinguish the two situations! And yet, that is what proponents of gay marriage are asking law makers to do.

lindsay said...

well said. i have a pretty non-invasive view on this kind of thing i guess... i mean who really cares? (in regards to the military issue going on right now). if someone is willing to fight for the country, then by all means, let them fight!

as for marriages, my BIL is very religious. there's nothing wrong with that, but sometimes he seems a little close-minded. and sometimes people take the bible TOO literally. hello, it was written many years ago by whoever-was-king-at-the-time. pretty sure they edited it to include what they wanted! and like you said, not up to us to judge!